Monday, July 28, 2008

Formulation of a new...relationship theory!

Had a short conversation with a friend, A, who is in US now for a work-and-travel program. I have known him for more than a decade, so he qualifies as an old friend. Conversation was great and midway through things, we touched on the topic of relationships. So it went something like this:

A: So how are things over at your side?

Me: No good. Hit a rock lately.

A: How come?

Me: I don't know...it's kind of sucky I guess. (Briefly told him my situation)

A: You should persevere!

Me: Sometimes perseverance is useless...especially if that person is not doing the same, or not worth your perseverance

[The conversation went on for quite some time. I can't really remember all the details. However, I came up with a theory of my own, which I did not expect I would in the first place]

Me: When you fall for someone, everything about him/her seems to be perfect.

Me: But when time passes, his/her flaws will start to show. His/her 'rating' in your eyes will start to drop.

Me: It keeps on dropping...until a level where it somehow stabilizes. At that point, you have roughly attained a good understanding of how 'sucky' your other half is.

Me: And if you can accept this level of suckiness, he/she can soon become your spouse!

OK there. I know I am oversimplifying things, but isn't this a rough picture of how things progress in a relationship? Although it is human nature to always be at our best, this, shall I say the somewhat false 'image' would gradually deteriorate over time and our real self will show (though not completely). Usually, the person who gets to see the protracted deterioration of the 'image' is our the other half.

And this pseudo-stability may change after marriage too. It usually gets worse...although occasionally, the level of suckiness of this other half that you are with may decrease. May only.

Thanks for reading!

Peace out~

1 comment:

Adber said...

I agree with your theory.. however it is not a new one!!